What do you do about aftercare? Is it something you do for yourself? Or should your spanker be responsive to your needs?
What does good aftercare look like to you?
Aftercare
Re: Aftercare
A kiss and a hug and perhaps a glass of water helps straight after play from the spanker if you are the spankee. Also to sit quiet for a while until back to normal straight after play if you are feeling light headed and spaced out - it is best that others do not talk to me personally when I am in this state as I am unable to answer very well. With luck the feeling with pass within minutes though I have had a time when it took an hour after an intense play.
If I am Domme then after the spanking it is nice for the spankee to offer to get me a drink and have a chat with me, perhaps offer to rub my feet or serve me for a little while if they are submissive too. Makes me feel valued. However when I am a spankee I am not prepared to rub a Dom's feet myself or be told what to do - so please do not ask me to do any of that! I know double standards but I am not submissive. I have tried very hard to be submissive but it rarely happens and it is difficult for me to pretend. I am fairly submissive to my Dom but not fully and if I don't want to do something then I won't do it and he understands this.
If I am Domme then after the spanking it is nice for the spankee to offer to get me a drink and have a chat with me, perhaps offer to rub my feet or serve me for a little while if they are submissive too. Makes me feel valued. However when I am a spankee I am not prepared to rub a Dom's feet myself or be told what to do - so please do not ask me to do any of that! I know double standards but I am not submissive. I have tried very hard to be submissive but it rarely happens and it is difficult for me to pretend. I am fairly submissive to my Dom but not fully and if I don't want to do something then I won't do it and he understands this.
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JohnSebastian
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Re: Aftercare
Definitely a hug! If desired, gently massaging some soothing lotion into the spanked bottom. And then more hugs!
Re: Aftercare
It’s where the spankee gets treated like the Queen of Sheba. She can have whatever she wants out of cod, plaice or haddock in batter out of the paper and a can of anything going. Dr. Pepper, Coke, Fanta, 7up, knock yourself out. Who said the age of chivalry is dead? But I draw the line at running a bath of milk.
But seriously. As important if not more so than the main event. Soothing and quiet time together. Bliss. My favourite time. “If only this moment could last forever.”
But seriously. As important if not more so than the main event. Soothing and quiet time together. Bliss. My favourite time. “If only this moment could last forever.”
Re: Aftercare
Basically whatever the spankee needs for their recovery.. I've known people who could just walk away. Equally I've known people who needed someone to hold them steady while they walked, an hour later.
The bottom needs to communicate this before they play, and the top can decide whether they're OK with that. It's as much part of the top's responsibility as any other safety aspect, and walking out on that is as unsafe as dangerous impact play.
If they're a house top then more often aftercare gets handed off to a friend. The event can't generally afford to lose a staff member for extended periods of time. Part of the top's responsibility then is to make sure they do have someone to do this.
The bottom needs to communicate this before they play, and the top can decide whether they're OK with that. It's as much part of the top's responsibility as any other safety aspect, and walking out on that is as unsafe as dangerous impact play.
If they're a house top then more often aftercare gets handed off to a friend. The event can't generally afford to lose a staff member for extended periods of time. Part of the top's responsibility then is to make sure they do have someone to do this.